When we think of honor, we typically think about honoring husbands. But the Bible is clear that as husbands, you should show your wife honor as well.

1 Peter 3:7 says,

“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayer may not be hindered.”

What does honor mean? How is it different from love? And how can you show your wife honor?

Honor vs. Love

Honor and love are not the same things. The difference is that “love” means to have a strong affection for someone or something or to be praised. Honor is to think highly, to respect highly, to show respect for, or to recognize the importance or spiritual value of.

Now that we know the difference, how can you show it? Here are thirteen ways to honor your wife.

13 Ways to Show Your Wife Honor

1. Be a man of God. Don’t make her responsible for your life or happiness. Look to Jesus to fulfill that promise. Seek Him first for yourself and your family.

2. Encourage her gifts. Your wife is gifted and talented. Encourage her to pursue what God has for her through those gifts.

3. Respect her opinion. Be the kind of man that wants to know how she feels about things. Ask about what she reads or is receiving teaching from and what she’s learning. And when she gives you an opinion about something, honor it and don’t demean or dismiss it.

4. Share your heart with her and ask her about hers. When you are together, share what’s on your heart and ask her about hers. Be intentional. Pay attention to the condition of your wife’s heart by asking her important questions.

5. Use your words wisely and speak kindly to her. Your words can either build her up or tear her down. Use words that build her up and speak them over and over and over again.

6. Be the guardian and the gardener of your home. Guard your home against evil and things that would dishonor your family. Be the gardener by filling your home with grace, God’s Word, and other spiritual values in the home.

7. Don’t discuss her weaknesses with others. You are “one flesh.” When you talk poorly about your wife to others, you may as well be saying it about yourself too. Don’t demean her to other people.

8. Show interest in her projects or passions. The simple truth is that she probably has projects and passions that don’t exactly excite you. But you can show her honor by being interested in talking about or listening to what interests her. You just might find it strengthens your appreciation for her, and your intimacy (emotional and physical).

9. Speak highly of her in front of and to your children. Teach your children to respect their mom by thanking and complimenting her in front of them. Don’t forget to show physical affection when they’re around to see. It’s good for them and good for your relationship.

10. Remember special days. Don’t forget moments like birthday’s, anniversary’s, and other days special to your wife.

11. Tell her what she means to you. When was the last time you told her how much she means to you and what you love about her? You cannot tell her enough how grateful you are for her.

12. Do not compare her to other women. Don’t point out how another woman looks, dresses, or treats her husband or children. Comparing her to other women is the fastest way to demotivate and wound your wife. She’s your wife, not someone else’s. Be loyal to her, and don’t compare her.

13. Do not treat her as a servant. Your wife isn’t your servant. You are both “heirs together of the grace of God,” remember? Look for ways to serve her.

Honoring your spouse will produce lasting fruit in your life and fulfill God’s design for your marriage.

Do you want to learn more about showing your spouse honor or need help in other areas of your marriage? Eagle Family Ministries equips couples through relationship coaching, fun marriage retreats, and Christian marriage conferences through Biblical principles to build a marriage that lasts a lifetime. Let’s chat about how we can help you.

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