The only thing that’s predictable about life is that it’s unpredictable. That’s why we need to create margins in your marriage.
What is a Margin?
Margins, like the sides of a piece of paper, are the extra room you reserve for when the unpredictable shows up. It’s a reserve of sorts to store whatever you might need more of. Some real-life examples include,
- Leaving early for an appointment (in case of traffic)
- Setting the alarm early so you can hit snooze a few times if needed
- Allowing room between you and the car in front of you on the road
- Putting money in the savings account for emergencies
Margins are necessary because it’s impossible to control every outcome, despite how hard many people may try.
Essential Margins in Your Marriage
Many of us unconsciously build margins in areas of our life, but do we do that for marriage too? Here are three margins every marriage needs to thrive.
Create margins around money. Financial stressors are one of the top stressors in marriages. Poor Financial stewardship can be a big marriage problem for couples.
If you feel financially maxed out, you need more margin. Get help from a financial advisor, trusted friend, or family member who is financially savvy to help. Downsize however you can. Cut down debt. Consider a smaller home or a less expensive car. Remember, the goal is to ease the financial stress and create wiggle room.
Work and careers take up a significant part of our time and energy. Be sure to save some energy for your family. Your family should always get your best.
Where can you create more energy margin? Creating an energy margin is about doing things that ADD energy to your life and family. Get out and do something fun together?
Busy. Busy. Busy. Everyone seems to be so busy. But busy doing what? God didn’t create us for a life of leisure, but he also didn’t create us to be busy every second of every day.
Everyone has the same amount of time. The difference is in how you spend it. If you’re getting home too late or spending too much time away from your spouse or family, you need more margin.
The easiest way to build in more margin for time is to learn to say “no” so you can say “yes” to things that matter: God, your spouse, and your family.
Marriage Margin Check-Up
Let’s do a quick check-up, shall we?
- Where is your margin in your marriage today?
- How do you and your spouse create more margin in your lives for each other?
- What’s your first step?
Give yourselves a fresh breath and create margins in your marriage. We are praying for you all.
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Eagle Family Ministries is a non-profit organization that equips pre-marital and married couples, single parents, and traditional families with Biblical tools resulting in healthy relationships that lead to a lifetime of love.
We have marriage conferences you can attend on your own, or you can schedule a marriage conference or marriage retreat for your church. Our team will custom-design a marriage conference for your church regardless of your location in the United States.