The average couple spends four minutes a day together. Does that surprise you? Busyness has become the life of many couples, especially those with children. And at the end of the day, many couples are frazzled with nothing left for spouses. But alone time with your spouse is critical to key to a healthy and satisfying relationship.

Tips to Getting Alone Time with Your Spouse

Relationships must be nurtured. And that means more time alone with your spouse. Here’s how.

Start Small & Be Intentional

  • Begin small by carving out time for each other daily. You could start with 15-20 minutes a day and increase over time.
  • Be intentional and commit. Set a time when you can focus on each other. Make sure it’s not leftover time in the day or too late when you’re tired. Maybe you could even use these conversation starters.

10 Ideas for Getting Alone Together

Use your alone time with your spouse as a time to connect. Avoid venting about work, complaining about friends or family, or discussing the kids. Here are ten ideas to get alone time with your spouse.

  1. Meet each other for a lunch date while the kids are in school or daycare.
  2. Share a quiet evening at least once a week.
  3. Ask trusted relatives or friends to babysit so you can have a date night.
  4. Make chores fun. Try doing a household chore together and make it fun.
  5. Turn screen time into your time. Turn off the TV and put away phones, tablets, and computers.
  6. Enjoy breakfast for two. Get up early one morning and make a nice breakfast for just the two of you. Here are some recipes to check out.
  7. Do devotions together. Devotionals are a great way to grow your relationship with God and spiritually with your spouse.
  8. Exercise together. Make your workouts a couple’s activity.
  9. Go undercover. Many parents use the time while kids are doing activities to run errands. Instead, sneak off to meet your spouse for coffee or a quick meal. No one needs to know!
  10. Go to bed at the same time. Going to bed together nurtures feelings of comfort, satisfaction, love, bonding, and happiness in your marriage.

Get More than 4 Minutes Together

Alone time with your spouse can significantly deepen your friendship, communication, intimacy, and love for each other. Let’s commit to shifting that statistic from 4 minutes to rich, quality time together.

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